Saturday, July 25, 2026

When life comes in full circle

 In 2000, I set off for an unknown country with my four-year-old son beside me. Apart from knowing that my husband was already there, I had no idea what I was getting into or what life had in store for us.


Before our departure, the visa process was daunting. We traveled to Chennai and stood in line for several hours before reaching the visa officer, only to have my application rejected because a few additional documents were needed from my husband, who was already in Boston. After several phone calls and a FedEx delivery, we finally gathered everything we needed and returned to the visa office several days later


During those challenging days, the relatives with whom I was staying in Chennai prayed for us and supported us, hoping that our little family would soon be reunited. And finally, we were.


My first journey to United States is fresh in my memory.  I was completely underprepared for what was to come. I had not thought through the challenges of beginning a new life in the United States—the cultural differences, the language barriers, the weather, or even the fact that the visa I was traveling on would not allow me to work. I didn’t even realize how long the flight would feel until my cousin, who came to see me off, told me it would take eighteen hours. And yet, I was confident and hopeful—the kind of confidence you sometimes have when you simply don’t know enough to be afraid.My four-year-old son, on the other hand, was simply excited to finally be reunited with his father.

And then, at last, we landed in Boston.


My husband was living in Revere, Massachusetts, at the time. The immigration officer at the airport was intimidating, asking questions about where I would stay and who would support me. I was so nervous and unfamiliar with everything that I didn’t even know how to pronounce the name of the town correctly. I was stepping into a completely unfamiliar world.


In Revere, my husband was living in a beachside apartment. The Boston Blue Line ended right next to the apartment at a station called Wonderland. And it truly was a wonderland. From the seventh floor, the living room opened to a beautiful view of the beach. We could see airplanes lining up to land at Logan Airport nearby. Large ships occasionally appeared on the ocean, while the bedroom windows overlooked the metro line, where blue trains frequently arrived at Wonderland.


My son tirelessly ran back and forth between the living room and the bedroom, taking in the endless parade of sailing ships, landing airplanes, and whistling trains. For a four-year-old, it was a true wonderland.


A week after we arrived in Boston, we moved to Austin, Texas. As an IT consultant, my husband’s career required frequent relocations.


Fast-forward fourteen years, and life had taken us through many different towns and cities across the United States. Our lives were shaped by my husband’s career, while I was trying to find my own footing in this new country. Each move meant starting over—finding a new home, learning a new neighborhood, adjusting to a new school, and rebuilding a sense of belonging. Through all those years of uncertainty and change, my son adapted and made the best of every situation we placed him in. And then, in 2014, we came back to Revere. We bought a townhouse and began another chapter of our lives here. Walking along the beach and taking early morning drives to watch the sunrise became part of our life in Revere. By then, our son had already left for university on the West Coast, beginning a journey of his own.


Today, after more than a decade as residents of this beautiful historic town, we are relocating once again.

But this time, something is profoundly different. This time, it is my son who is opening this new chapter for us.


The way my husband once brought us to the United States and opened the door to a new life, my son is now helping us open the door to another chapter. There is something deeply emotional about that realization.The child who once traveled beside me as a four-year-old, eager to be reunited with his father, is now the one taking steps to bring us closer to him.


My husband recognized opportunities, took risks, and made the most of every chance life gave him. But one of the most meaningful part of his journey is the role he played in raising our son- instilling good values in him and giving him the foundation and springboard he needed to build his own life here.


When we came to this country as a young family, we never planned to stay forever. Our idea was to work for a few years and then leave. But this country has a way of pulling you in. Once you are here, once you build a life here, and especially once you raise your children here, it becomes difficult to turn back. We worked. We adapted. We moved. We grew. And we watched our son grow into the person he is today.


As I leave Revere, watching the sunrise one last time, I cannot help but reflect on our journey. The little boy who once arrived in America holding his mother’s hand is now helping his parents find their way into a new beginning. Life has truly come full circle. And as we close one chapter and step into another, I realize that every move, every uncertainty, every sacrifice, and every new beginning has brought us to this moment—to one more sunrise, and to the beginning of another chapter.

Monday, December 29, 2025

When a year come to an end


Ending a year and beginning another is not an abrupt act in the time-space continuum; a day ends, giving birth to a new one, just like any other day. However, a year is a cycle, and the New Year’s Day, is the beginning of that cycle. So it makes sense to celebrate this point in time, to reflect and to hope for a good year ahead. 


I have been reflecting on life a lot recently.  To express the learning curve that I have experienced over the past three decades or so is not an easy task. I may not be able to covert my thoughts to words, but I feel the need to write them down so that I can develop some clarity. 



Life goes in circles- sometimes hyperbolic too..


We expect life to be linear. A newborn child learns to walk, talk, study, get a job, get married, buy a house, and have kids, repeat. We have strict timeline for life. We have timeframes  for when one is supposed to find a job, get married, have kids, buy a house and so on.  We have norms for everything and do not know how to deal with extremes. 


But life’s trajectory may not take a linear path.  For some, it does. For some, it goes in circles; for others, hyperbolic. Not everyone needs to follow the same path. It is okay to deviate from the norm. It is okay to skip stages in life, it is okay to add your own stages as well. Stay tight and just enjoy the ride while you can. 


Stay focused on your own track


No matter how others are running the race called life, stay focused on your course. You may have to stop, slowdown,  withdraw from a race, or miss one altogether, or even sign up for a different race due to various reasons. Others may be sprinting, or jumping hurdles. It doesn’t matter. Keep  the focus on yourself. 


There were times in my life I was stuck, did not know what to do, and anxious because everyone else seemed to be moving fast, ticking their boxes, while I felt directionless and unable to determine the next step. We get anxious mostly because people expect us to do things in a certain way, and this creates tension and pressure. People judge others’ life based on their life and experiences. Only you know what your circumstances and capabilities are. 


Missing a chance is not the end of the world. Stay focused. Don’t get discouraged or overwhelmed. Go at your own pace. What matters is that you are doing your best. Learn to control the controllable. 


Fill your heart with compassion and empathy 


I have been fortunate enough to know compassionate people throughout my life - those guardian angels who helped me steer in the right direction when I felt lost, expecting nothing in return. I have also come across people who have hurt, cheated, taken advantage or were rude. You learn from both set of people.


 From the first set, I have learned to spread goodness in my world in whatever way I can. From the second set, I have learned how not to behave. People change; people evolve. I am not the same person I was yesterday. I have learned and grown. Extend that benefit to others too. Be kind with your words and deeds. Be humble.


Health is wealth 


Steve Jobs was one of the wealthiest men in the world and yet died of pancreatic cancer. His wealth couldn’t buy him even a single extra day. Some health issues cannot be fixed by money. That said, money can sometimes help you access good healthcare. So invest in your health as much as you can. But remember, money alone cannot guarantee well- being. If you are healthy, you are truly one of the wealthiest person in the world. 


On developing an attitude of gratitude


At times, it is not easy to find gratitude in difficult circumstances. Life will bring us worst-case scenarios, no matter how much we prevent them. Know that even the fiercest storms will pass, time heals and this too shall pass. Sometimes the storm will leave permanent damage that cannot be undone, learning to accept and move on will be the only way ahead. Our soul may carry scars from these experiences, but let a stronger, kinder, better version of us emerge to help us move ahead. 


Don’t complicate things 


Life can be as complicated as one makes it, especially when we take everything seriously and put ourselves at the center of everything. Don’t give too much importance to yourself- just go with the flow. Do what makes you happy and try to bring happiness to others around you. Zoom out of life instead of zooming in;  keep an eye on long term instead of just the present. You may be going through a stressful period or a peaceful one- beware that neither is permanent.  



As the saying goes “ Don’t let success go to your head, and don’t let the failure go to your heart”. Everything even out eventually. Everyone’s yardstick of success is different. The definition of success is different at different stages of life too. So do not complicate things 



As we welcome the next cycle in our space–time continuum, let hope guide us every single day. Life is not meant to be perfectly linear—sometimes it moves in circles, sometimes it accelerates in unexpected ways. Stay focused on your own track, and go at your own pace. Fill your heart with compassion and empathy, learning from those who lift you up and from those who challenge you. Remember that health is the truest wealth, and cultivate an attitude of gratitude even in difficult times. Don’t complicate things; zoom out, keep the long-term perspective, and allow yourself to grow from every experience. Above all, be kind, be humble, and cherish the journey